After observing some patterns in my life, one morning, I wrote this note to myself:
- Behavior tolerated is behavior encouraged - When I let people get away with talking slick or getting one over on me without doing a damn thing about it…I only short change myself.
- Ask for what exactly what you want. - I have been too content to find workarounds and deal with things on my end instead of saying “this doesn’t work” and “you need to fix this, and this is what I want.” This will undoubtedly lead to some tense and awkward moments, but it’s best in the long run. I will definitely struggle with this.
- Make better wishes - Be specific. Very specific. (I got this one from a friend.)
- Don’t let small problems become big ones.
I find myself having to come back to this note often, as I get sidetracked and go back to bad habits.